0.00.00 My name’s Parveen Tabish and I’m a Community Support Co-ordinator for Northumbria Police based at Gateshead Area Command. A Community Support Coordinator’s job involves dealing with members of the public who have been a victim of a hate crime or a hate incident. So if we have a victim that reports an incident to Gateshead Area Command I automatically become involved where I have to go out and reassure the victim and collect any
0.00.30 information that would help with the inquiry and to try and increase the confidence with the community. I absolutely love the role that I’m doing now. I’ve done this role for almost six years. Before that I worked in a front office, an inquiry office where a member of the public would come in to a Police Station, I’ll be the first point of contact. So I did that for about nine, almost ten years, loved it but this has been even better. It’s been the best thing.
0.01.00 My experience at school wasn’t very good unfortunately. I’m from a little town in Northumberland where there wasn’t many Asians so I was automatically classed as the odd one when I had first started school there. And I always got left out. I always got treated very differently, unfairly and I think that’s helped me be the person that I am today because there’s nothing worse than being left. There’s nothing worse than being made to feel lonely.
0.01.30 The negative experiences that I did suffer at school have made me the person that I am today where I am able to deal with these kind of issues and certainly I would encourage my daughter to be able to deal with these kind of issues if she ever came across them rather than hoping that they will just go away. When I left school I went to college, did a couple of years at college then I went to Glasgow Caledonia University. I was only there for under a week, came back home, started working in the family business again, felt that wasn’t right, that wasn’t fulfilling for me.
0.02.00 So then I went and did an advanced training scheme with Northumbria Police and then found employment within Northumbria and at that time that was a temporary contract I was working on at an inquiry office. My family are extremely proud that I work for Northumbria Police. My mum did expect me to only last for two minutes within this job and return back to the family business, but I was pleased to prove that she was wrong.
0.02.30 I went to Pakistan under the impression that I was going to my sister’s wedding. Whilst I was there I was forced into a marriage. I didn’t know who I could trust. I didn’t know that I should phone work and let them know what was happening. I was confused. I didn’t know what was happening. It was happening so quickly that it was hard to try and absorb exactly what was going on. My coping mechanism at that time for the way that I was going to deal with that situation was to return back to the UK and divorce my husband because inside I didn’t accept him as a husband.
0.03.00 Yes, on a sheet paper he was written down as my husband but I didn’t accept him as a husband. I did actually call my husband over from Pakistan because I thought no, I’ve got to give him the opportunity, I don’t want to look back in ten years time and think what would have happened. So, yes, he came over, he was very supportive of the work that I did, the fact that I work for Northumbria Police and he knows that I’m very proud of working for this organisation and I think with his support and encouragement, I’ve actually managed to fulfil my dream job, which I’m doing today.
0.03.30 I don’t really have a role model but what I certainly do like to believe in is that I could possibly be a role model for somebody else who’s broken away from the family ties, expectations, been through a forced marriage, had a baby and still be able to hold a career. Perhaps I could be a role model for somebody out there.
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Parveen Tabish
Parveen Tabish
0.00.00 My name’s Parveen Tabish and I’m a Community Support Co-ordinator for Northumbria Police based at Gateshead Area Command. A Community Support Coordinator’s job involves dealing with members of the public who have been a victim of a hate crime or a hate incident. So if we have a victim that reports an incident to Gateshead Area Command I automatically become involved where I have to go out and reassure the victim and collect any
0.00.30 information that would help with the inquiry and to try and increase the confidence with the community. I absolutely love the role that I’m doing now. I’ve done this role for almost six years. Before that I worked in a front office, an inquiry office where a member of the public would come in to a Police Station, I’ll be the first point of contact. So I did that for about nine, almost ten years, loved it but this has been even better. It’s been the best thing.
0.01.00 My experience at school wasn’t very good unfortunately. I’m from a little town in Northumberland where there wasn’t many Asians so I was automatically classed as the odd one when I had first started school there. And I always got left out. I always got treated very differently, unfairly and I think that’s helped me be the person that I am today because there’s nothing worse than being left. There’s nothing worse than being made to feel lonely.
0.01.30 The negative experiences that I did suffer at school have made me the person that I am today where I am able to deal with these kind of issues and certainly I would encourage my daughter to be able to deal with these kind of issues if she ever came across them rather than hoping that they will just go away. When I left school I went to college, did a couple of years at college then I went to Glasgow Caledonia University. I was only there for under a week, came back home, started working in the family business again, felt that wasn’t right, that wasn’t fulfilling for me.
0.02.00 So then I went and did an advanced training scheme with Northumbria Police and then found employment within Northumbria and at that time that was a temporary contract I was working on at an inquiry office. My family are extremely proud that I work for Northumbria Police. My mum did expect me to only last for two minutes within this job and return back to the family business, but I was pleased to prove that she was wrong.
0.02.30 I went to Pakistan under the impression that I was going to my sister’s wedding. Whilst I was there I was forced into a marriage. I didn’t know who I could trust. I didn’t know that I should phone work and let them know what was happening. I was confused. I didn’t know what was happening. It was happening so quickly that it was hard to try and absorb exactly what was going on. My coping mechanism at that time for the way that I was going to deal with that situation was to return back to the UK and divorce my husband because inside I didn’t accept him as a husband.
0.03.00 Yes, on a sheet paper he was written down as my husband but I didn’t accept him as a husband. I did actually call my husband over from Pakistan because I thought no, I’ve got to give him the opportunity, I don’t want to look back in ten years time and think what would have happened. So, yes, he came over, he was very supportive of the work that I did, the fact that I work for Northumbria Police and he knows that I’m very proud of working for this organisation and I think with his support and encouragement, I’ve actually managed to fulfil my dream job, which I’m doing today.
0.03.30 I don’t really have a role model but what I certainly do like to believe in is that I could possibly be a role model for somebody else who’s broken away from the family ties, expectations, been through a forced marriage, had a baby and still be able to hold a career. Perhaps I could be a role model for somebody out there.
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Parveen Tabish is a Community Support Co-ordinator for Northumbria Police. Its her dream job. She deals with members of the public who have been victims of a hate crime or hate incident. She would love to be a role model for someone who, like her, has "broken away from family ties, expectations, been through a forced marriage, had a baby and still been able to hold a career."
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